Seasons of singleness sure know how to feed us some lies.
But somehow, we often end up believing them. If we’re talking “real” boyfriends, I’ve had one. No I don’t want to be single forever, but for now, I know it’s doing nothing but good for me.
So to you single girls out there– I’m with you, & every girl who is in a relationship was been there too. It just so happens that you’re in it right now, which isn’t a bad thing by any means. If you’re in the midst of singleness, I hope you know that it’s an opportunity for you, NOT a season where you’re missing out on an opportunity.
This post, by the way, is not against anyone in relationships because we’ll all go through those phases too, but it’s a piece of encouragement to the single gals who are in the middle of a phase that can be tough & filled with pressure to get past.
There are three things that we’re gonna OWN today, as single gals. Are ya ready?!
It isn’t any “fault” of your own that you’re single. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.
This seems so silly to even be typing right now because it’s somewhat obvious, but I know that we’ve all forgotten it at times & needed this kick in the butt, so I’m willing to be the one to throw it out there. You aren’t single because there’s anything wrong with you. Honestly, there’s probably more truth in the opposite: you’re single because there’s a lot of things RIGHT with you– like the fact that you’re allowing yourself to be independent & chase after your dreams, visions, goals & faith. Your standards are above being in an average relationship just to be in one, & the expectation that we all need to have a relationship to be happy. You’re in this season because you’re supposed to be, not because you aren’t good/smart/pretty/desirable enough to get a boyfriend.
Loneliness isn’t a side-effect of singleness. Loneliness is a side-effect of needing to take time to improve yourself.
I hate to break it to you, but if you’re feeling lonely right now, a relationship isn’t going to come along and fix that any more than a band-aid could fix the cuts we all got while learning how to ride a bike (those were some serious scrapes, ladies). On the flip side, people in relationships can feel just as lonely as the single pringles. If you’re feeling lonely or empty or needing some void to be filled, please please don’t ever think that a guy can come along, say TA DA, and suddenly you’re feeling full of everything you’ve ever needed. As great as a weekly date night or daily compliment would be, that cannot fill us up the way that we need. The very best thing we can do for ourselves is wire ourselves to take initiative in filling in our own gaps & struggles.
Being single doesn’t mean you’re missing out. Being single means you have all the time & opportunity in the world to chase after the life you want & the future you want.
I can tell you right now, I will aggressively be typing this lil paragraph because I am really passionate about you knowing that you are lucky to be in this season. GIRL, you have things to do in this season that involve becoming your best self & pouring into others in a way that could change the stinkin’ world. Let’s start treating every single season as an opportunity because honestly, every single season is–but singleness is one where it’s 100% up to you what you want to get out of it, and that’s pretty incredible.
Single ladies– I am so excited for where you’re at right now & I’m excited for where you’re going. Know that you aren’t alone in this. Keep rocking & rolling & SLAYING this season you’re in.